I've been hesitating to write anything here until I finished season three and had an opportunity to learn more about Yubel and their relationship to Jaden. Even though I knew that I would be heavily invested in their relationship - even before I started the show - I never knew exactly what it would mean to me or how it would be presented in canon. I still don't exactly know how to describe it, but I have lots of thoughts about them, and I think their relationship is beautiful even when viewed through many different lenses.
*note - there are some complexities in the lore that i don't
quite know how to parse yet, so for simplicity's sake:
- I use he/him pronouns for Yubel as a human, and she/they
pronouns for Yubel after their transformation
- I'll refer to Jaden's past life as Haou, and use 'The Supreme
King' when I'm talking about his golden-eyed version in the
present
I think the reason that I don't know how to describe their
relationship is because I can see it in so many ways. I think
it's definitely romantic in nature, but that word seems too
light. It's fate; they were fated to be together. Yubel pledged
his life to Haou, and gave up his humanity for him, and in
return Haou pledged to love him for the rest of eternity. They
made a promise to each other that would, on paper, allow their
love to last until the end of time.
The issue, then, is that Yubel lived every single day with this
promise in mind, well past Haou's natural life. And then they
were left alone (for an undisclosed amount of time, but one that
in my mind, was quite a long time) with nothing
but this promise to sustain themselves. A promise that they
would protect Haou, and Haou would love them, forever. And so
Yubel waited for Haou's next life, so that they could continue
where they left off.
But Yubel didn't get Haou, their childhood love. They
got Jaden. And they weren't even there to meet him, to talk to
him, to hold him. Jaden was a stranger, a child who knew Yubel
as nothing more than a made-up character in his favorite game.
That isn't to say that Jaden didn't care about Yubel. The show
makes it clear that Jaden could feel something of their past
relationship, because he is adamant about treating Yubel as his
real friend, and he cares for her well being when she
hurts the people around him. Instead of getting mad at Yubel for
hurting people, he wants her to get the help she needs so she
can be a kind and pure hero.
Jaden understands instinctually that Yubel isn't acting out of
malice, but rather that she doesn't understand what is and isn't
a danger to Jaden; and also that she is (understandably)
frustrated by her inability to be with him physically. Yubel has
never even been able to look at Jaden until she
possesses Martin in the third season; they even say this
explicitly, with awe in their voice, getting to see him eye-to
eye.
I think it's also important to note that Yubel made his promise
when he was still a child. I don't think he knew the extent of
what was going to happen to him. We only get the briefest of
glimpses into this past life, where Haou's father tells Yubel
what the risk is and Yubel so bravely accepts, as long as he can
protect Haou and keep him safe. But can we really expect that
this authority figure telling a young boy 'you'll become a scary
dragon, and people won't recognize you' is adequate preparation
for his entire body being surgically altered, and very likely
cursed? Changing the entire course of his life? Making him
outlive his loved ones? Making him spend years alone as a, for
lack of a better word, monster?
So, Yubel, no matter how long they have been alive, is really
coming at this entire issue from a child's perspective. They
give up their human body for the one they love. It's hard,
beyond hard, but they want Haou to be safe. And maybe they do
keep him safe. But Haou is a human, and humans die. And so
Yubel is left alone. And when they finally meet their love
again, they are trapped in a flat little piece of paper in the
hands of some stranger, unable
to even talk to him. They have to lash out to get his attention.
But this stranger - this boy named Jaden - still cares about
them. And they have hope, that if they can just escape and be
with him, they can unlock the Supreme King's soul and see Haou
again, and everything will be okay.
And then this boy's parents take Yubel away from him. Worse -
they take Jaden away, they take Haou away. Yubel is losing him
again. And when Yubel is sent away, burning and screaming and
crying for Jaden to save them, he does nothing. He lets it
happen. And then Yubel spends the next ten years trying to find
him, trying to see him again, to ask him why he didn't do
anything. And Jaden doesn't even remember them. This is
more than not having Haou's memories. Jaden doesn't even
remember their games together, the time that they, truly, the
two of them, spent together. And now Jaden and this new boy,
this boy that looks so much like Yubel's old body that it
hurts, are standing next to each other. Touching, smiling
at each other. It's the last straw. All this twisted logic and
misunderstanding of what love should be has
been building inside their heart for years - but seeing Johan is the very last straw,
and Yubel finally can't take any more.
Yubel's actions in the third season are horrible, and
unforgivable, but heartbreakingly understandable when you think
about this logic they have been internalizing their entire life.
"I love Haou, so I get hurt for his sake. I get hurt for Haou
because I love him. Haou is Jaden now, and Jaden hurt me. He
hurt me a lot. Haou loves me, Jaden loves me. Jaden hurt me
because he loves me. I have to hurt Jaden so he knows I love
him. I want to hurt Jaden, I want Jaden to hurt me, because then
I can prove we're still in love."
We're never really going to know Haou's place in this story, but
I think it's fair to say that Yubel suffered in this situation
more than he ever did. Yubel has been a protector and a
sufferer. He gave up absolutely everything and got nothing in
return. And so Jaden's defining moment at the end of their duel
is to put an end to this suffering. Just as Yubel gave up his
life and his body to Haou, Jaden gives up his life and body to
Yubel. But it's more than that. Nobody is 'giving up' anything
here; nobody is suffering, nobody is losing. Jaden is finally
filling that emptiness in Yubel's heart, giving them the thing
that they have always wanted: they will be together until they
die. Yubel won't have to lose sight of him ever again, to feel
that emptiness when Jaden passes away before they do. They're
sharing the same body, the same soul. They have achieved a bond
that nobody else could ever hope to achieve. Yubel's promise is
fulfilled. Safe and secure inside Jaden's body and the Supreme
King's soul, they can protect him and love him for the rest of
the life they're going to live together.